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Tuesday, January 31, 2006

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Cricket

You sound so composed. Wow. I envy that. Thanks for sharing your thought process. Good luck as you proceed.

Lisa

I should have read this one before I posted on the last one (with terrible spelling, sorry.)

You sound so much like me at this stage. I asked D if he wanted to co-parent when I was in the considering stages and he told me "no."

I felt so much better in going on by myself. When D later asked to be on the birth certificate and the father, I was happy because I thought it could only help and not hurt. He has grown into being a parent somewhat and He greatly enjoys the kids and they enjoy him.

But to be clear, I am the main parent around here. (For fairness' sake, he's had a lot of health problems this year distracting him.) I do 99% of the work, I do 90% of the thinking, stressing, and planning, I do probably 85% of the financial stuff. I'm so glad he is in their life. But I am by most definitions, a single parent. And mostly , I like it that way.

But I'm glad I went in it alone (even though I dreamed of the fantasy of coparenting as well.) because everything that happens now is just gravy. It's a bonus. Maybe this is unhealthy and I'm screwed up. But I'd rather think of myself as a single mom with an involved father than as a mom in a coparenting situation in which the man isn't contributing much at all. (You know that happens a lot with married couples, anyway.)

Besides, I'm looking forward to the day that they are old enough to be dumped at his place for a few days a month so I can go PARTAY!!

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